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Tips on Etiquette

Honoring Life & Legacy

We've compiled a guide on how you can respectfully offer your condolences at a funeral or cemetery. For additional questions, please reach out to our staff.

 


 

Funeral Etiquette

What to Say and What Not to Say

What to Say and What Not to Say

A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” is appropriate when offering your condolences. Say what feels right in the moment. Avoid phrases such as “they are in a better place” or “this is God’s plan” because they may not hold these views.

What to Wear

What to Wear

Long gone are the days of wearing black to funerals, funerals today are more personalized, wearing clothing that is comfortable to you while maintaining decorim is always acceptable. If there is no dress code, assume that you should dress conservatively, without bringing attention to yourself.

Religious and Ethnic Customs

Religious and Ethnic Customs

If the family has religious or ethnic customs different than your own, it is helpful to find out any special considerations before the service. You can ask us for advice and additional resources if you are unsure.

Paying Your Respects

Paying Your Respects

When there is an open-casket, guests are welcomed to visit the casket and pause for a moment of silence. You will know if the family will show you to the casket or if you are to approach it on your own. If you are uncomfortable viewing the deceased, you do not need to view them.

Giving Flowers and Gifts

Giving Flowers and Gifts

Typically, guests will send flowers, donate money, or give a memorial gift to the family of the deceased. Sometimes the family will make special requests depending on their situation.

Signing the Register Book

Signing the Register Book

We strongly encourage visitors to sign the register book for the benefit of the family so they have a record of the attendees.

Avoid Cellphone Disruptions

Avoid Cellphone Disruptions

To avoid any disruptions, silence or turn off your phone before entering the funeral home.



Cemetery Etiquette

Follow the Cemetery’s Rules

Follow the Cemetery’s Rules

Follow any of the rules posted on the signs around the cemetery. This includes cemetery hours and flower restrictions. They are written to help all guests have a peaceful experience visiting their loved one.

Be Respectful of Other Mourners

Be Respectful of Other Mourners

Give everyone their space and privacy, especially if a funeral is happening.

Respect the Graves and Monuments

Respect the Graves and Monuments

Never remove any of the items placed on the gravesite that could be left by a family.

Keep the Cemetery Clean

Keep the Cemetery Clean

Never litter or leave behind your trash. Either find a garbage can or bring it with you.

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Phone: (630) 242-4700
485 W. Army Trail Rd., Bloomingdale, IL 60108


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